FAT NO MORE SECRETS 4 OF 10 - I FEEL SAFER WHEN I AM FAT
Losing weight isn’t just about being on a diet or even exercising as demonstrated by the high number of unsuccessful diets and exercise programs. First, Slim Couture have to find the many M.E.S.S. blocks (Emotional, Mental, Subconscious, and Spiritual cubes ) that keep you from losing weight and then let them go. These M.E.S.S. blocks are distorted beliefs, ideas, or fears that prevent your weight reduction. If you do not get rid of these M.E.S.S. blocks, you’ll keep having an extremely hard time losing weight and, if you succeed, then you will always regain the weight.
If you have been badly abused, you will probably be fearful of being mistreated, and you’ll search for a way to protect yourself. Fat reduces the sexual attention that you get from others because fat makes you less attractive. Fat again becomes a form of protection.
A lady I met at a conference told me about her overweight teenager daughter who was allowing herself go by not caring for herself and her body. Confronted by her mother, the adolescent confessed that the only way she knew how to take care of the unwanted sexual attention from boys at school was to look poor and be obese.
Throughout a Oprah Winfrey show, Lisa Nichols, a teacher of The Secret admitted she gained 100 pounds to shield herself from unwanted sexual attention from men.
If you’re fat and not as attractive, you are going to feel more protected from physical abuse. Many women create this belief when they have been traumatized by physical abuse. When that has happened to you, you’ll need to give up this belief. If you have been beaten on a particular area of the body, you will develop a layer of fat to protect yourself from the physical pain of the beating. You generally store the psychological pain inside the same area too. So, this layer of fat will be full of the memories and emotions linked to the bodily abuse.
One of my clients was defeated her legs by her mother. Her life, she had enormous legs and she had trouble losing weight. Among her limiting beliefs was that she still needed to guard herself from her mother’s beating and have at least four inches of fat around her legs as a defense.
To ensure that you feel safe losing weight, you need to let go of the following M.E.S.S. blocks to weight loss:“fat is really a protection from abuse”,“fat protects me”;“being fat causes me to feel secure”;“I feel insecure and unsafe if I am thin”;“I feel protected from abuse if I am fat”. You will not be able to achieve permanent weight loss until you let go of those twisted beliefs.